Conflict is sure to arise in marriage but ability to deal it helps preserve your marriage and avoid leading to something else.Sometimes conflict is unavoidable since marriage has it's own tension.These tips may help you in dealing with marital conflicts.
Having respect for each other>>>>Respect goes with love. The Bible even talks about respect when the Lord said, "husband love your wife and wife respect your husband". According to Helen Hollick, two people can only live as one when each is prepared
to give and receive trust and understanding. Above that lies respect.
Without respect for how the other feels, no marriage is worthwhile. When you respect your spouse, you get to understand the uniqueness in him or her, you will also have to tolerate and appreciate each other and not trying to manipulate or change her into her to be. Respect makes you seek her view before concluding or taking a decision.
Good communication>>>A wealth of research has shown that communication plays an essential role in maintaining committed, satisfying marriages. Communication can bring about understanding and the lack of communication leads to conflict. Always approach each other with a soft tone and respectfully. Let the communication be clear enough and learn to be a good listener.
Accepting responsibility>>> Taking responsibility for your action and apologizing to your partner when you are at fault. Knowing what you have ought to do and doing it at the right time will help resolve the conflict. Instead of being in denial or trying to brush it under the rug, the best
thing you can do is to say you’re truly sorry and to mean it.
Do not apportion blame >>>>Don't keep repeating what has been said before.Don't keep blaming, instead since it has being done,getting the solution will be the best thing at this time. Instead of being in denial or trying to brush it under the rug, the best
thing you can do is to say you’re truly sorry and to not only say those
words, but to mean them. Confrontation is never the best.
Selflessness>>>There is need to be fair in everything you are doing. Try not to place your desire consistently above your partner’s emotional needs and only respond when it is a matter of convenience,because it makes her feel worthless. This may lead to isolation, there by having little to share in common.
Identifying the real cause of the conflict and looking for solution>>>Getting to underlying issues solved. When you are not sure, ask. The unsolved or neglected issues may pile up to cause a conflict.
Seeking for each other's view before making a decision>>>>Don't always do it your own way. Since your partner is involved, try to it the way that will sooth each other. Seeking her consent will make her feel she is loved and valued by her partner. Expectations for marriage include a desire for soul-satisfying
experience of being known, understood, loved, accepted and valued.
Learning to compromise>>>Sometimes
this is a necessary step in order to re-align your intentions with
positive goals and to calm down enough to think about what the real
issues are for you. Being able to compromise shows respect. When it comes to compromising, you may find that it’s better to be happy than to be right.