Parenting involves providing care and affection to the children. Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.
American Psychological Association puts it that parenting practices around the world share three major goals: ensuring children’s health and safety, preparing children for life as productive adults and transmitting cultural values. A high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development.
According to Steinberg, a distinguished professor of Psychology at Temple University in Philadelphia, parenting is one of the most researched areas in the entire field of social sciences
Ruby Natel who is also a professor of clinical pediatrics at the University of Miami medical school, pointed out that many people employ the same tactics their parent used and a lot of times that means using really harsh discipline.
She explains that a parent’s relationship with his or her child will be reflected in the child’s action – including behavior problem.
1 TREAT YOUR CHILD WITH RESPECT – The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him or her with respect, according to Steinberg.
He pointed out that children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationship with others.
2 GOOD DECISION MAKING – If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young he will have hard times learning how to manage himself when he is older” “The rules your child has learned from you are going shape the rules he applies to himself, according to Steinberg
Good decision making helps you to answer questions such as “where is my child?” “what is my child doing?” “who is my child with?”
3 EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION – explain your decision and expectations you want your child to live up to, says Steinberg
Let the child know your decision and the reason. If your rules vary everyday in an unpredictable fashion or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault. The more authority is based on wisdom and not power, the less your child is likely will challenge it, says Steinberg
4 ADAPTING A PARENTING STYLE TO FIT YOUR CHILD – According to the best available research, the best parenting style is the authoritative style which is the balance of firmness and nurturance.
The outcome are generally best for kids in terms of academic success, mental health, and good well – being when they are raised by parents that use authoritative style.
Good parenting involves a style that considers children’s age and development.
According to experts, families work well when they are guided by democracies or benign dictatorship. Someone has to be in charge of a family and it must be the parent.
Also be flexible and ready to adjust your parenting style when necessary
4 BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL – Young kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. According to Steinberg, what parents do matters and make difference because your kids are watching you. Model the traits you wish to see in your child such as respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness e t c. There are some certain things you don’t do in front of the children because they will practice it when you are not around.
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SHOW DISCIPLINE – As parent, you are responsible for correction and guiding your kids. Many a times, discipline is misinterpreted as punishment. Discipline is all about helping children learn morals and values in the family.
According to WebMD, discipline helps the children to follow rules. These will help them behave in an acceptable manner. Sometimes the children will want to test the limit you have set, discipline helps your kids to choose acceptable behaviors and develop self – control. Indeed discipline is very necessary in every house hold.
6 SHOW LOVE – Research over the decade highlights the link between affection in childhood health and happiness in future.
A researchers at Duke University Medical school found out that babies with very affectionate and attentive mothers grow up to be happier, more resilient, and less anxious adults. Another study in 2013 from UCLA found that unconditional love and affection from a parent can make children emotionally happier and less anxious.
The study said that a lack of parental warmth can make a child more stressed since parents put too much pressure on them without balancing it with affection. Children and mothers have strong bond when the mothers show more affection, according to a 2013 study from the University of Missouri – Colombia. Michou in her research suggested that parents should encourage their children to pick up new skills by being more affectionate and sensitive to their child’s issue.
Sources: WedMD.com
apa.org
kidhealth.org
parentingideas.com
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